Creating Life Passionately - Lessons from a Bush Turkey

G'day Everyone,

I find myself sitting at the computer eager to follow my passion and create my dreams come true.... but am hindered by the chatter in my mind.  You see, my mind likes to think. When I'm laying in bed and my mind is filled with constant ideas and notions. When I'm sitting on the verandah eating lunch my mind dwells on what could be, what should be. And of course, it dwells on what's not... and why not.

I'm sure you recognise this cycle of constant flow of thoughts and mind chatter.  It happens to the best of us. It's just the way we've been taught in our upbringing and in society. Intellect and thought are considered important aspects to be successful.

But did you know that your heart can think too?  Deep within your being is another form of creating that comes from your whole being, not just your mind.  This powerful form of creation comes from your total abandonment in passion and excitement. In fact, you can't create without passion. It is impossible to successfully change your life without aligning yourself to what makes you feel excited in every day life.

So, how you do sit within your passion rather than in your chattering mind?

Ask yourself in every moment possible: How am I feeling right now? Is this what I truly want to be doing? Am I excited to get out of bed every morning to live my life? Am I in love with all the people in my life?

Become intimately aware of your every moment.

Take for instance, my neighbour bush turkey.  He is very active creating the biggest nest. The bigger the nest he builds the more likely he will be to attract a mate.  EVERY MINUTE of his day is devoted to creating this nest. To building the life he desires. In fact, the poor guy, has had to rake leaves over layers of wood and tin (due to construction). No matter what obstacles get in his way.... he remains determined and focused.

(Isn't he a handsome fellow. I can just imagine how cute the baby bush turkeys will be.).

His rather large nest keeps growing and he keeps gathering leaves.  Turkey's nest is outside my office/study and it's a great reminder for me to stay focused and passionate about what I want to achieve in life.  The more I focus on what I want to achieve the more refined my vision gets. The more specific my goal is, the more likely I will be able to create it.  Turkey knows he is building a nest... and so he does.

Today I'd like to encourage you to be join me and be as focused as a bush turkey on your goals. Feel the power of passion move through you to improve your life and make your dreams come true.

If you are being thwarted from achieving your dreams due to old patterns or are feeling stuck or frustrated and can't quite pinpoint what your ideal passion is... please get in contact with me for a consultation. I'm a passionate coach eager to support you on your journey via skype, phone or in person: http://www.carmenwyld.com

5 Things to GET YOU EXCITED right now.

Live life passionately.

That's my motto.

And every once in awhile I question myself... what percentage of my activities are my true passion at the moment?

Passionate people have the power to create their life. To make their wildest dreams comes true.

Can you make yourself excited about something you have to do? Do you have the inner focus to love every aspect of your life? To see the positives, rather than the negatives?

If you can generate the feelings of excitement, passion or love in every moment - miracles and synchronicities WILL HAPPEN.  And I'm not just saying they will happen once a year or once every month. They will happen every day!

When I get excited about what I'm doing in life it all starts to flow. When things start to flow for me I know I'm on the right track - creating the life I desire. 

Successful people are passionate about what they do!  To be successful in life and in business follow your passion and what excites you. Ask yourself in each moment... am I doing what's right for me? Am I doing what I enjoy in this moment? Can I see the positives of what I'm doing right now?

Now I'm not talking about having to beam all the time this radiant exciting energy...  but it has to feel right for you in the moment. 

For instance, I'm a professional counsellor and coach and have started up practice helping middle-aged women improve their life.

(I resonate with this age group. You know the age when change occurs in a woman's life. It's either your children are leaving their nest, or your parents are aging, or you've just ended a long term marriage or relationship, or perhaps you're tired of your career. You're feeling stuck and frustrated and need to find your passion and do what you love to do. You want to heal your heart and improve your life. MAKE LIFE JUICY.)

But then in comes a market research job and I suddenly find myself saying 'yes' I'll do it and am making a zillion phone calls a day to executive's answering machines getting more frustrated as the day goes on. Only one more interview completed and my mind is numb.

I'm not following my passion. I have a huge heart for helping people. How can I generate enough passion to feel excited about research? After all, it's only for a week. <I'm careful not to fall into a pit of sadness and remind myself to BE EXCITED!>  And then I day-dream about my new business venture.

Last week I had a powerful vision of a new venture that would create much excitement and help people improve their lives. oooooohhh... I'm excited!  I run it by a colleague of mine and YES! - he's in. We begin brainstorming to pull it all together successfully. It's exciting! Oh yes, very exciting. We'll launch it late October. I decide to do some research of my own.

OMG! I can just imagine how excited the 'behind the scenes' person is about the research I'm doing for the company (which I previously considered frustrating).  They too are starting a new venture.

<grin!>

I'm excited!

 I want you to ask yourself - what are you doing that makes you feel excited and passionate?  Right now. Not in 2 hours from now when you're at your yoga class - right now.

Can you see the benefits of what you are doing right now? Is your career your ideal position according to your beliefs and values? Is it the best you can get right now as you move towards your desired position? Do you benefit financially from your position? How does your family and friends benefit from your chosen career?

Ponder on these 5 questions to get your EXCITEMENT JUICED....

What would you love to be doing right now? 

What gives you the most loving/passionate feeling in life?

How can you feel more passionate and excited about your life?

What changes can you make in how you perceive your current situation to feel EXCITED?

What miracles would you like to appear that would greatly improve your life?

LOOK FOR THOSE MIRACLES EVERY DAY.

EXPECT MIRACLES.


Expecting miracles generates a feeling of excitement towards what you desire. A feeling of excitement and passion moving through your mind and body has the power to create your dreams and goals to come true.

And one more thing... SMILE WIDELY at 5 people every day. This, in itself, is a sure remedy for feeling stuck or frustrated in life.

Try it...

Through answering the five questions I'm sure you discovered at least five things that get you excited and passionate. If you're still feeling stuck and frustrated and are eager to get to the bottom of your situation please feel free to contact me for a consultation: http://www.carmenwyld.com.

Much Love,
Carmen

Would You Eat Your Cat?

It was a few months ago now when I was standing the public library browsing through books while my daughter sought her favourites.  I believe the right book can sometimes fall into your hands. You know, you’ve got that niggling question about life and suddenly a magical book appears with an enchanting title offering answers to the current complexities of life. Well, this wonderfully warm summer day I was rather baffled when the book titled, “Would you eat your cat?” fell into my hands.

Uh.

Yuk!

Uh.

Who would title a book like that?! It puts bad ideas into people’s minds.

As a cat lover and owner of a whiter than milk coloured cat with two different coloured eyes I was astonished and angry. I’ve heard the saying that you’re either a cat lover or a cat hater. And you know those cat haters… they can come up with all sorts of disgusting cat jokes. Ew!

As I’m holding this book in the library my beloved feline friend is probably curled up in a ball on my bed. 

(Which is where she was at the time, and not in this cooking pot).

OMG!

The shock passes (but not the disgust) and I open the front cover, which by the way has an adorable picture of a kitten on it (it can’t be that bad then, right?).

We have different forms of what we believe to be ideal ways of living. Our viewpoints and perspectives may vary from one moment to the next and be different depending on the circumstance and situation we find ourselves in. What we believe to be true or right could be considered as wrong from another person’s perspective. Our viewpoints, opinions, ideas and beliefs differ from another’s. If we believe this to be true we must understand there is not one that is correct.  It would be utterly ridiculous to believe one life view is the same for all.

So, if my truth has a yuk factor to the question, “would you eat your cat?” how does that compare to another person’s perspective?

In the book by Jeremy Stangroom he guides the readers to consider their moral philosophy by considering a range of questions. As we identify the way in which we judge others we gain a deeper understanding of our own moral philosophy and the issues that affect our lives. 

Have you ever been given the righteous “should” treatment by someone? You know the kind. “You should do this….” Or “You shouldn’t do that…” and they expect you to follow these ‘orders’ because they are deemed to be morally correct in that person’s eyes.

YOU SHOULDN’T EAT YOUR CAT!  The title of the book really shocked me because I am an animal lover and would not consider eating my cat. But the moral issues involved in the story says that the cat in question died of natural causes, no one was harmed by the cat being eaten and it was a situation which only involved the owner of the cat who was honouring her beloved friend after it passed away. Is there anything immoral in doing this then? 

(I'm thinking she's rather disgusted that I'm only serving up vegetables!).

We could, as we were told to, SHOULD this elderly woman who felt she was doing the right thing to honour her feline friend’s life.  Or we could consider the situation from her perspective. Was she happy and satisfied doing this? Yes. Did she do anything that would hurt another person or living thing? No. Even though we carry our toolbox of beliefs and values other people may hold different ones.

When you’re aware of your values and beliefs you can consider the shoulding, whether it comes from your viewpoint or someone else, and if it's right for you.  I was raised in a Christian Reformed Church where judging was the ‘norm’ and hence I was constantly trying to prove myself to other people and often made the choice to act like a person I wasn’t just to please everyone else.

I simply wasn’t myself.  I was living a lie. And much to my disgust I too was judging and minimalising others.... blah!... the energies behind judgements and put downs are very heavy to carry.

After many years of soul searching I found my true self and my passion in life. 

Are you feeling stuck or frustrated in life? Do you find yourself worried what others might think of you? Do you have judgemental thoughts?  If so, you might like to consider if you are following your true path or doing what you should be doing? Are you being SHOULDED by your past?

On a side note…. I wonder, how can we live our lives passionately and remain true to ourselves without conflicting with other people’s viewpoints and perspectives?  Could social morality support this?

Imagine everyone on the planet being true to themselves and following their passion. Imagine the people in your neighbourhood, your family and friends… imagine them all excited about living and extremely happy in their lives. Imagine the world without SHOULDs!  What would the world look like?

If you live life passionately… you are guaranteed, not only succeed in reaching your dreams and goals, but you will also spark a seed in the people around you which will excite them to improve their life.

I hope this Blog finds you extremely happy and satisfied in life.  If not, get in touch with me so we can discover how to get you back on track. http://www.carmenwyld.com.

All the best,

Carmen

(No cats were harmed in the making of this blog.  She just became very confused as to why she was woken up from a cozy sleep, curled on my bed, to stand in a cold pot near vegetables.)

Living on the Edge

It's not hard to do... living on the edge.

It feels as though I'm living in two worlds, balancing the desire to be in one more than the other. Yet the other world demands and wants.... the pressure on my body and soul are excruciating.  *squeezing head with both hands, trying to ease the tension*

It's not difficult, simply ridiculous.

Are you living on the edge? I think most people are, but they just don't have the nerve to announce it to the world.

Our world. Unless you've been living under a rock you would have noticed that this world of ours is going through some crazy times.

I think that's where the edge resides. Between this crazy and chaotic world of wants and demands and the other world filled with unlimited peace, love and joy.

I've heard that nature holds the key to this New Earth people are talking about.  Not sure if nature would want our toxic mind games. Passive aggressive. Judgements. Ridicule. Assumptions. Criticisms. Nature doesn't know these energy vibes.

So, where do we begin?

What will ease the pressure and stress?

What's my part?

.... and where do you fit into all of this?

 As in the words of the Buddha.... "your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it."

I'm curious. Are you living in two worlds? And how are you handling it?

Heal the Planet from Within

Feel the excitement, as WE, a team of Earth-wide citizens, work together to create a peaceful and loving world. Come join us on this dynamic journey!

The world is under a constant state of stress including the plants, animals and even us humans. We are starting to wake-up to our circumstances and realise that we need to make changes. But the only way to change the world is to heal ourselves from within. It cannot be done any other way.

How could we continue to think and act the way that we do and make significant changes the heal the world?  It's time now to become consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and emotions and take action to change them to improve our lives... which in turns helps to heal the world.

For more information on this inner journey like us on Facebook at "Heal the Planet from Within" or subscribe to my newsletters at www.carmenwyld.com

Thank you for your support!

All the best,
Carmen

Creating the Life You Desire

It's a beautiful life. A beautiful world.

It has taken me some time to work out a strategy for creating the life I desire. I used to settle for less than what I wanted. As the old saying goes, "be happy for what you have" yet the underlying meaning of this statement is "don't expect anything else". That's how I was raised. My grandparents lived in Holland went through the German war. They learned to be happy with a minimal amount (and so you would). But this thought form travelled through my family and I was taught the beliefs that "we don't have enough money" and "you'll never amount to anything". Not sure where that last one fit in, but it was a tricky one to shake.

"Know Thyself" (the title of one my chapters: Heal the Planet from Within - on Amazon)  is the most important step in creating the life you desire. If you are unaware of the thoughts and beliefs you are holding in your mind and body, then how can you make the necessary changes to create the life you desire?

What life do you desire? Who do you want to be?

Here's a HELPFUL TECHNIQUE:

Write a letter from your future self to your current self from 10 years from now. Describe your living situation, the people around you, your career or job, your family relationships, your own personality and way of being, your level of satisfaction and happiness and how much love surrounds you. Next, tell your current self what you did to get there. Explain the crucial things you realised and the major hurdles you overcame.

This activity was a huge help for me to realise that what I was currently doing was not leading me to where I wanted to go and whom I wanted to be. With this knowledge I then had the power to choose different thoughts, emotions and actions to create the life I desired.

It takes some time to adjust your life path to create your dreams and goals. I've been consciously watching my ideal path appear in my life for a few years now.  Most of my life is aligned to create the life I desire both now and in the future. There are a few areas I'm still making adjustments too, but I can proudly say that I'm consciously creating my life.  Living in natural surroundings is one thing that was on my wish list.

Today I'm blogging from my peace of heaven (pun intended).  These pictures are taken from my front verandah. I'm living in sub-tropical surroundings in nature. In this picture the glare of the sun is blocking the mountain views.

But if I zoom in just slightly you can see the horizon.

Are you living your ideal life and lifestyle? It isn't selfish to desire a better life. When you are living your dreams and goals you inspire others to do the same.

Enjoy the journey!

All my best,
Carmen Wyld

Dealing With Troublesome Emotions

G'Day Readers!

I feel inspired today to take our conversation about thoughts one step further and show you a simple model for understanding your emotions.

Your thoughts and emotions are a great way to understand your signature patterns and the energies you are emanating into the world. Imagine for a moment hovering above yourself and seeing the emotional pattens in your matrix. Your emotions are creating a certain vibration. Now, in your imagination, take time to view other people's signature patterns such as the Dalai Lama's, your neighbour and your children. (Don't allow judgement or ego to do the viewing - just observe). What differences do you notice?

Everyone emanates a particular energy through their emotions. For instance, when you walk into a room where someone is angry you can feel their 'vibe' and this is different than the 'vibe' of someone joyful.

When are you experience negative emotions pause for a moment and query about the thoughts going through your mind at that moment. Your thoughts are the generator for your emotions. Managing emotions starts with thought awareness. Having conscious knowledge of your thoughts gives you the power over your feelings and emotions.

Ellis A-B-C model gives us clarity on how we upset ourselves about situations in life. For example,
if A = activating event - children are not listening or are misbehaving,
B = beliefs or thoughts - 'they are terrible to me, why don't they listen!'
C = emotional consequences - frustration and yelling.

Whereas if you replaced B with 'How else can I explain this in their language so they better understand?' or 'What is it they are really telling me here?',  then C = creating clear communication and perhaps even a joint venture with your children to figure out how things can go more smoothly.

I followed a similar model with my own daughter. Whenever I became frustrated with her actions I made the conscious choice to listen to my thoughts and identify the 'old patterns' (probably from my parents) and changed the way I did things.  Doing this made a difference not only to our relationship, but also to how she handles her own emotions. She's fifteen now and we remain close friends.

I encourage you to be diligent and watch your thoughts with care. Use your troublesome emotions as an indicator about your thoughts.  When you are feeling frustrated, angry or sad take some time to consider what thoughts you might be having. Change your thoughts to create positive emotions.

You have the power within you to change your life. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOU to CHANGE your WORLD.  How to deal with emotions is by observing your thoughts.

If you continue to do the things the way you have always done them... you will continue to get the same results... make the necessary changes to align with your dreams and goals... to create a life and lifestyle you desire!

 

Wishing you a wonderful day!

All the best, Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Choose to have a BAD DAY!

G'Day Everyone!

Are you having a bad day?

It's a dreary Monday and there's no end to the clouds in the sky. I'm feeling the cold temperatures up in the mountains and hence am wearing leggings layered under my pants (again).  Brrrr!!! And YES, I have my funny hat on and even fingerless gloves. Brrrr!!!

This dismal day makes me wonder..... what thoughts did you have this the morning?  Have you ever noticed how your morning thoughts affect the rest of your day?

The thoughts you have when you first open your eyes in the morning can SET THE TONE of YOUR DAY.  Pay attention to what you think after your alarm clock goes off.

Some people have negative or 'down' thoughts on bleak, cloudy days.  Some people have a negative thought pattern throughout every morning regardless of what the weather is doing.

BE WARNED!! Your thoughts are POWERFUL CREATORS OF YOUR LIFE.  Yet you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth.

Thoughts are not factual. Thoughts are not truth. Thoughts are not knowledge. Thoughts are a condition of the limitations of society's constructs. Whatever you think is the creation of the web of concepts and theories which have been devised by civilisation and the social order.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life.  With this knowledge you have the power to make a conscious choice to create your life as you desire.

So, when you wake-up tomorrow morning. Choose your thoughts accordingly. Choose to create your life as you desire.  If you notice a negative thought pattern say STOP! to it, and then choose to replace it with a positive thought pattern.  PAY ATTENTION to your thoughts and transform them so they align with your dreams and goals. That's the power of positive thinking. You can use it to improve your life.

For an example of how to change your life using thought awareness let's say your morning thought was, "I'll never have enough (money, clients, happiness, etc)." change it to something more empowering such as, "Miracles occur every day." or "I am in control of creating my life... and I choose to be happy today." ... and so on.

I hope this blog was inspiring to you.  As always, I love connecting with you through my blog. I welcome comments, feedback and questions. Would you like me to blog about something you're pondering about?  I am passionate about helping people improve their life with passion....so if you need support or guidance I offer Life Coaching and Professional Counselling consultations in person or online.


Happy Thinking!
Carmen Wyld

P.S. For a copy of my book click here.
 

Would you like power over your chattering mind?

G'day Readers!

So you’ve learned how to multi-task, huh? 

When you were a child you most likely focused on one thing at a time. When you climbed trees you didn’t worry about money. When you played with your toys you didn’t fret about bills. Your family’s issues stayed their own – it wasn’t your responsibility to solve them.  (well, hopefully).

Between family matters and responsibilities, bills and money worries, work situations and trying to fit in some “me” time – whoah! -  life can be pretty hectic! 

Multi-tasking is considered a high skill where you can juggle many tasks at once and be productive in your family and work life.

But what happened to having peace of mind?

Do you crave it?

Even a little?

Perhaps you take some time to escape from the kids by going out for dinner with your friends…. Or soak in a bubble bath… Or indulge in some chocolate… and then more chocolate … and then more….

It’s only a quick break.

What would you say if I said you could have peace of mind anytime and anywhere?

Yup. AND, it’s easy!

I’m going to share with you a technique that will give you power over your chattering mind. (I've got other amazing strategies to share in future blogs too). 

 Right now I want you to CLOSE YOUR EYES and COUNT TO THREE.

Great!

How did you do? Did you count to three without any other thoughts in your mind?  If not, try again. Count to 3 with absolutely NO OTHER THOUGHTS in your mind except for the three counts.  If you naturally see images in your mind you might choose to visualise the numbers appear one by one.  (I imagine Sesame Street numbers appearing – Lol! – my brother used to watch a lot of Sesame Street). 

It’s easy – right?

Now do it again. Only this time, count to ten. Take your time because the ten count is more difficult than the three count. And be like a HAWK on your thoughts… NO OTHER THOUGHTS may appear when you’re doing the ten count!

If any thoughts do come up…. then start the ten count over again from the number one.

Try not to fool yourself.  I just tried it and in the background of the numbers I caught thoughts about what sentences to write in the blog.  I had to start again. When the background thoughts are quiet it’s only then that the PEACE OF MIND COMES.

 

You can do this three or ten count at any time throughout your day.

If the kids are getting rowdy do the three count. Imagine each number bringing you peace of mind. What colour represents peace to you? Is it the colour of a clear blue sky or the passionate red colour of love?  Have each colour appear to you in ways that will ensure you have peace within your mind.

I assure you… it gets easier with practice… so keep it up… at least three or ten times a day!

Imagine the kids running a muck and you’re sitting there with a peaceful grin on your face!

In a future blog I want to take you to the next level where we create an oasis of blissful heaven …. A sacred space that you hold in your mind… and you can go there whenever you feel the need to bring peace throughout your mind, body and soul. 

I’ll share with you my peaceful place… if you share yours. 

But for now, I’m curious….. how many times did you count to three or ten without other thoughts?  And how did this feel to you?

P.S. The picture is of yours truly  - taken next to a beautiful stream in Queensland, Australia.

Many Blessings,

Carmen Wyld

Life Coach and Counsellor

www.carmenwyld.com

UGH! Got one of those DOWN TIMES happening?

I can remember quite a few down times throughout my life. They are NOT FUN. It can feel like the whole world is against you and you're moving through a heavy fog of emotional burdens. Or you might feel as though you have a chain around your ankles or waist... pulling you backwards.

And, you don't want to move backwards in life!

UGH!

How many times have you curled in a ball and cried yourself dry?

How often do you feel utter despair? - So much that everyone close to you experiences your misery?

I am an experienced down timer. I felt disconnected from the world.  When I ventured out on my own I felt lonelier and disheartened about life. Geepers. After all, it's a heavy burden to face the world alone. Yet, many people do. And so this deep hurt and loneliness weighs on your shoulders. Whatever your burden in life - it hurts - it's heavy - and it's not fun.

I don't remember how that happened. It became a ritual, or habit for me.  Each time I experienced a down time I consciously choose to go deeper into the heavy emotion. I found myself observing myself feeling negatively.  Whether it was grief, fear or misery I always took time out and went deeper into the emotion with my whole self - mind, body and soul. I allowed my mind the stay in the misery, rather than make excuses and just be happy for the sake of it. I acknowledged my body in the moments by allowing it to cry and shake, rather than stop the tears and be brave. 

During these turmoil times I learned to recognise a certain pattern - something good always happened afterwards. I called these Rainbows.  I always waited for the rainbow while basking in the misery. I released, rather than suppressed. I honoured myself by allowing each and every precious moment of misery.

This deep moment of respecting myself became a sacred ceremony. No excuses. No judgement. No reasons. Just honouring.

AND, I waited for the rainbow.

it's important to expect the rainbow. After all, everything changes. No matter how deep you are in your misery or other heavy emotion - it will change. 

EXPECT THE RAINBOW.

When you allow yourself to experience the uncomfortable emotions you not only save yourself from suppression in your body or mind, but it also strengthens your spirit. When you are able to feel negative emotions with ease and grace they become not so painful. It is then that you learn different strategies for dealing with difficult situations or problems. You gain power.

Immerse in misery, let it pass and expect the rainbow.

I hope this blog is helpful. It might not be written with excellent grammar and sentence structure today, but it's straight from my heart to yours.

Honour yourself. Love yourself.

All the best,
Carmen










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