Creating Life Passionately - Lessons from a Bush Turkey

G'day Everyone,

I find myself sitting at the computer eager to follow my passion and create my dreams come true.... but am hindered by the chatter in my mind.  You see, my mind likes to think. When I'm laying in bed and my mind is filled with constant ideas and notions. When I'm sitting on the verandah eating lunch my mind dwells on what could be, what should be. And of course, it dwells on what's not... and why not.

I'm sure you recognise this cycle of constant flow of thoughts and mind chatter.  It happens to the best of us. It's just the way we've been taught in our upbringing and in society. Intellect and thought are considered important aspects to be successful.

But did you know that your heart can think too?  Deep within your being is another form of creating that comes from your whole being, not just your mind.  This powerful form of creation comes from your total abandonment in passion and excitement. In fact, you can't create without passion. It is impossible to successfully change your life without aligning yourself to what makes you feel excited in every day life.

So, how you do sit within your passion rather than in your chattering mind?

Ask yourself in every moment possible: How am I feeling right now? Is this what I truly want to be doing? Am I excited to get out of bed every morning to live my life? Am I in love with all the people in my life?

Become intimately aware of your every moment.

Take for instance, my neighbour bush turkey.  He is very active creating the biggest nest. The bigger the nest he builds the more likely he will be to attract a mate.  EVERY MINUTE of his day is devoted to creating this nest. To building the life he desires. In fact, the poor guy, has had to rake leaves over layers of wood and tin (due to construction). No matter what obstacles get in his way.... he remains determined and focused.

(Isn't he a handsome fellow. I can just imagine how cute the baby bush turkeys will be.).

His rather large nest keeps growing and he keeps gathering leaves.  Turkey's nest is outside my office/study and it's a great reminder for me to stay focused and passionate about what I want to achieve in life.  The more I focus on what I want to achieve the more refined my vision gets. The more specific my goal is, the more likely I will be able to create it.  Turkey knows he is building a nest... and so he does.

Today I'd like to encourage you to be join me and be as focused as a bush turkey on your goals. Feel the power of passion move through you to improve your life and make your dreams come true.

If you are being thwarted from achieving your dreams due to old patterns or are feeling stuck or frustrated and can't quite pinpoint what your ideal passion is... please get in contact with me for a consultation. I'm a passionate coach eager to support you on your journey via skype, phone or in person: http://www.carmenwyld.com

Would You Eat Your Cat?

It was a few months ago now when I was standing the public library browsing through books while my daughter sought her favourites.  I believe the right book can sometimes fall into your hands. You know, you’ve got that niggling question about life and suddenly a magical book appears with an enchanting title offering answers to the current complexities of life. Well, this wonderfully warm summer day I was rather baffled when the book titled, “Would you eat your cat?” fell into my hands.

Uh.

Yuk!

Uh.

Who would title a book like that?! It puts bad ideas into people’s minds.

As a cat lover and owner of a whiter than milk coloured cat with two different coloured eyes I was astonished and angry. I’ve heard the saying that you’re either a cat lover or a cat hater. And you know those cat haters… they can come up with all sorts of disgusting cat jokes. Ew!

As I’m holding this book in the library my beloved feline friend is probably curled up in a ball on my bed. 

(Which is where she was at the time, and not in this cooking pot).

OMG!

The shock passes (but not the disgust) and I open the front cover, which by the way has an adorable picture of a kitten on it (it can’t be that bad then, right?).

We have different forms of what we believe to be ideal ways of living. Our viewpoints and perspectives may vary from one moment to the next and be different depending on the circumstance and situation we find ourselves in. What we believe to be true or right could be considered as wrong from another person’s perspective. Our viewpoints, opinions, ideas and beliefs differ from another’s. If we believe this to be true we must understand there is not one that is correct.  It would be utterly ridiculous to believe one life view is the same for all.

So, if my truth has a yuk factor to the question, “would you eat your cat?” how does that compare to another person’s perspective?

In the book by Jeremy Stangroom he guides the readers to consider their moral philosophy by considering a range of questions. As we identify the way in which we judge others we gain a deeper understanding of our own moral philosophy and the issues that affect our lives. 

Have you ever been given the righteous “should” treatment by someone? You know the kind. “You should do this….” Or “You shouldn’t do that…” and they expect you to follow these ‘orders’ because they are deemed to be morally correct in that person’s eyes.

YOU SHOULDN’T EAT YOUR CAT!  The title of the book really shocked me because I am an animal lover and would not consider eating my cat. But the moral issues involved in the story says that the cat in question died of natural causes, no one was harmed by the cat being eaten and it was a situation which only involved the owner of the cat who was honouring her beloved friend after it passed away. Is there anything immoral in doing this then? 

(I'm thinking she's rather disgusted that I'm only serving up vegetables!).

We could, as we were told to, SHOULD this elderly woman who felt she was doing the right thing to honour her feline friend’s life.  Or we could consider the situation from her perspective. Was she happy and satisfied doing this? Yes. Did she do anything that would hurt another person or living thing? No. Even though we carry our toolbox of beliefs and values other people may hold different ones.

When you’re aware of your values and beliefs you can consider the shoulding, whether it comes from your viewpoint or someone else, and if it's right for you.  I was raised in a Christian Reformed Church where judging was the ‘norm’ and hence I was constantly trying to prove myself to other people and often made the choice to act like a person I wasn’t just to please everyone else.

I simply wasn’t myself.  I was living a lie. And much to my disgust I too was judging and minimalising others.... blah!... the energies behind judgements and put downs are very heavy to carry.

After many years of soul searching I found my true self and my passion in life. 

Are you feeling stuck or frustrated in life? Do you find yourself worried what others might think of you? Do you have judgemental thoughts?  If so, you might like to consider if you are following your true path or doing what you should be doing? Are you being SHOULDED by your past?

On a side note…. I wonder, how can we live our lives passionately and remain true to ourselves without conflicting with other people’s viewpoints and perspectives?  Could social morality support this?

Imagine everyone on the planet being true to themselves and following their passion. Imagine the people in your neighbourhood, your family and friends… imagine them all excited about living and extremely happy in their lives. Imagine the world without SHOULDs!  What would the world look like?

If you live life passionately… you are guaranteed, not only succeed in reaching your dreams and goals, but you will also spark a seed in the people around you which will excite them to improve their life.

I hope this Blog finds you extremely happy and satisfied in life.  If not, get in touch with me so we can discover how to get you back on track. http://www.carmenwyld.com.

All the best,

Carmen

(No cats were harmed in the making of this blog.  She just became very confused as to why she was woken up from a cozy sleep, curled on my bed, to stand in a cold pot near vegetables.)

Creating the Life You Desire

It's a beautiful life. A beautiful world.

It has taken me some time to work out a strategy for creating the life I desire. I used to settle for less than what I wanted. As the old saying goes, "be happy for what you have" yet the underlying meaning of this statement is "don't expect anything else". That's how I was raised. My grandparents lived in Holland went through the German war. They learned to be happy with a minimal amount (and so you would). But this thought form travelled through my family and I was taught the beliefs that "we don't have enough money" and "you'll never amount to anything". Not sure where that last one fit in, but it was a tricky one to shake.

"Know Thyself" (the title of one my chapters: Heal the Planet from Within - on Amazon)  is the most important step in creating the life you desire. If you are unaware of the thoughts and beliefs you are holding in your mind and body, then how can you make the necessary changes to create the life you desire?

What life do you desire? Who do you want to be?

Here's a HELPFUL TECHNIQUE:

Write a letter from your future self to your current self from 10 years from now. Describe your living situation, the people around you, your career or job, your family relationships, your own personality and way of being, your level of satisfaction and happiness and how much love surrounds you. Next, tell your current self what you did to get there. Explain the crucial things you realised and the major hurdles you overcame.

This activity was a huge help for me to realise that what I was currently doing was not leading me to where I wanted to go and whom I wanted to be. With this knowledge I then had the power to choose different thoughts, emotions and actions to create the life I desired.

It takes some time to adjust your life path to create your dreams and goals. I've been consciously watching my ideal path appear in my life for a few years now.  Most of my life is aligned to create the life I desire both now and in the future. There are a few areas I'm still making adjustments too, but I can proudly say that I'm consciously creating my life.  Living in natural surroundings is one thing that was on my wish list.

Today I'm blogging from my peace of heaven (pun intended).  These pictures are taken from my front verandah. I'm living in sub-tropical surroundings in nature. In this picture the glare of the sun is blocking the mountain views.

But if I zoom in just slightly you can see the horizon.

Are you living your ideal life and lifestyle? It isn't selfish to desire a better life. When you are living your dreams and goals you inspire others to do the same.

Enjoy the journey!

All my best,
Carmen Wyld