Creating the Life You Desire

It's a beautiful life. A beautiful world.

It has taken me some time to work out a strategy for creating the life I desire. I used to settle for less than what I wanted. As the old saying goes, "be happy for what you have" yet the underlying meaning of this statement is "don't expect anything else". That's how I was raised. My grandparents lived in Holland went through the German war. They learned to be happy with a minimal amount (and so you would). But this thought form travelled through my family and I was taught the beliefs that "we don't have enough money" and "you'll never amount to anything". Not sure where that last one fit in, but it was a tricky one to shake.

"Know Thyself" (the title of one my chapters: Heal the Planet from Within - on Amazon)  is the most important step in creating the life you desire. If you are unaware of the thoughts and beliefs you are holding in your mind and body, then how can you make the necessary changes to create the life you desire?

What life do you desire? Who do you want to be?

Here's a HELPFUL TECHNIQUE:

Write a letter from your future self to your current self from 10 years from now. Describe your living situation, the people around you, your career or job, your family relationships, your own personality and way of being, your level of satisfaction and happiness and how much love surrounds you. Next, tell your current self what you did to get there. Explain the crucial things you realised and the major hurdles you overcame.

This activity was a huge help for me to realise that what I was currently doing was not leading me to where I wanted to go and whom I wanted to be. With this knowledge I then had the power to choose different thoughts, emotions and actions to create the life I desired.

It takes some time to adjust your life path to create your dreams and goals. I've been consciously watching my ideal path appear in my life for a few years now.  Most of my life is aligned to create the life I desire both now and in the future. There are a few areas I'm still making adjustments too, but I can proudly say that I'm consciously creating my life.  Living in natural surroundings is one thing that was on my wish list.

Today I'm blogging from my peace of heaven (pun intended).  These pictures are taken from my front verandah. I'm living in sub-tropical surroundings in nature. In this picture the glare of the sun is blocking the mountain views.

But if I zoom in just slightly you can see the horizon.

Are you living your ideal life and lifestyle? It isn't selfish to desire a better life. When you are living your dreams and goals you inspire others to do the same.

Enjoy the journey!

All my best,
Carmen Wyld

Dealing With Troublesome Emotions

G'Day Readers!

I feel inspired today to take our conversation about thoughts one step further and show you a simple model for understanding your emotions.

Your thoughts and emotions are a great way to understand your signature patterns and the energies you are emanating into the world. Imagine for a moment hovering above yourself and seeing the emotional pattens in your matrix. Your emotions are creating a certain vibration. Now, in your imagination, take time to view other people's signature patterns such as the Dalai Lama's, your neighbour and your children. (Don't allow judgement or ego to do the viewing - just observe). What differences do you notice?

Everyone emanates a particular energy through their emotions. For instance, when you walk into a room where someone is angry you can feel their 'vibe' and this is different than the 'vibe' of someone joyful.

When are you experience negative emotions pause for a moment and query about the thoughts going through your mind at that moment. Your thoughts are the generator for your emotions. Managing emotions starts with thought awareness. Having conscious knowledge of your thoughts gives you the power over your feelings and emotions.

Ellis A-B-C model gives us clarity on how we upset ourselves about situations in life. For example,
if A = activating event - children are not listening or are misbehaving,
B = beliefs or thoughts - 'they are terrible to me, why don't they listen!'
C = emotional consequences - frustration and yelling.

Whereas if you replaced B with 'How else can I explain this in their language so they better understand?' or 'What is it they are really telling me here?',  then C = creating clear communication and perhaps even a joint venture with your children to figure out how things can go more smoothly.

I followed a similar model with my own daughter. Whenever I became frustrated with her actions I made the conscious choice to listen to my thoughts and identify the 'old patterns' (probably from my parents) and changed the way I did things.  Doing this made a difference not only to our relationship, but also to how she handles her own emotions. She's fifteen now and we remain close friends.

I encourage you to be diligent and watch your thoughts with care. Use your troublesome emotions as an indicator about your thoughts.  When you are feeling frustrated, angry or sad take some time to consider what thoughts you might be having. Change your thoughts to create positive emotions.

You have the power within you to change your life. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOU to CHANGE your WORLD.  How to deal with emotions is by observing your thoughts.

If you continue to do the things the way you have always done them... you will continue to get the same results... make the necessary changes to align with your dreams and goals... to create a life and lifestyle you desire!

 

Wishing you a wonderful day!

All the best, Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Choose to have a BAD DAY!

G'Day Everyone!

Are you having a bad day?

It's a dreary Monday and there's no end to the clouds in the sky. I'm feeling the cold temperatures up in the mountains and hence am wearing leggings layered under my pants (again).  Brrrr!!! And YES, I have my funny hat on and even fingerless gloves. Brrrr!!!

This dismal day makes me wonder..... what thoughts did you have this the morning?  Have you ever noticed how your morning thoughts affect the rest of your day?

The thoughts you have when you first open your eyes in the morning can SET THE TONE of YOUR DAY.  Pay attention to what you think after your alarm clock goes off.

Some people have negative or 'down' thoughts on bleak, cloudy days.  Some people have a negative thought pattern throughout every morning regardless of what the weather is doing.

BE WARNED!! Your thoughts are POWERFUL CREATORS OF YOUR LIFE.  Yet you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth.

Thoughts are not factual. Thoughts are not truth. Thoughts are not knowledge. Thoughts are a condition of the limitations of society's constructs. Whatever you think is the creation of the web of concepts and theories which have been devised by civilisation and the social order.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life.  With this knowledge you have the power to make a conscious choice to create your life as you desire.

So, when you wake-up tomorrow morning. Choose your thoughts accordingly. Choose to create your life as you desire.  If you notice a negative thought pattern say STOP! to it, and then choose to replace it with a positive thought pattern.  PAY ATTENTION to your thoughts and transform them so they align with your dreams and goals. That's the power of positive thinking. You can use it to improve your life.

For an example of how to change your life using thought awareness let's say your morning thought was, "I'll never have enough (money, clients, happiness, etc)." change it to something more empowering such as, "Miracles occur every day." or "I am in control of creating my life... and I choose to be happy today." ... and so on.

I hope this blog was inspiring to you.  As always, I love connecting with you through my blog. I welcome comments, feedback and questions. Would you like me to blog about something you're pondering about?  I am passionate about helping people improve their life with passion....so if you need support or guidance I offer Life Coaching and Professional Counselling consultations in person or online.


Happy Thinking!
Carmen Wyld

P.S. For a copy of my book click here.
 

Would you like power over your chattering mind?

G'day Readers!

So you’ve learned how to multi-task, huh? 

When you were a child you most likely focused on one thing at a time. When you climbed trees you didn’t worry about money. When you played with your toys you didn’t fret about bills. Your family’s issues stayed their own – it wasn’t your responsibility to solve them.  (well, hopefully).

Between family matters and responsibilities, bills and money worries, work situations and trying to fit in some “me” time – whoah! -  life can be pretty hectic! 

Multi-tasking is considered a high skill where you can juggle many tasks at once and be productive in your family and work life.

But what happened to having peace of mind?

Do you crave it?

Even a little?

Perhaps you take some time to escape from the kids by going out for dinner with your friends…. Or soak in a bubble bath… Or indulge in some chocolate… and then more chocolate … and then more….

It’s only a quick break.

What would you say if I said you could have peace of mind anytime and anywhere?

Yup. AND, it’s easy!

I’m going to share with you a technique that will give you power over your chattering mind. (I've got other amazing strategies to share in future blogs too). 

 Right now I want you to CLOSE YOUR EYES and COUNT TO THREE.

Great!

How did you do? Did you count to three without any other thoughts in your mind?  If not, try again. Count to 3 with absolutely NO OTHER THOUGHTS in your mind except for the three counts.  If you naturally see images in your mind you might choose to visualise the numbers appear one by one.  (I imagine Sesame Street numbers appearing – Lol! – my brother used to watch a lot of Sesame Street). 

It’s easy – right?

Now do it again. Only this time, count to ten. Take your time because the ten count is more difficult than the three count. And be like a HAWK on your thoughts… NO OTHER THOUGHTS may appear when you’re doing the ten count!

If any thoughts do come up…. then start the ten count over again from the number one.

Try not to fool yourself.  I just tried it and in the background of the numbers I caught thoughts about what sentences to write in the blog.  I had to start again. When the background thoughts are quiet it’s only then that the PEACE OF MIND COMES.

 

You can do this three or ten count at any time throughout your day.

If the kids are getting rowdy do the three count. Imagine each number bringing you peace of mind. What colour represents peace to you? Is it the colour of a clear blue sky or the passionate red colour of love?  Have each colour appear to you in ways that will ensure you have peace within your mind.

I assure you… it gets easier with practice… so keep it up… at least three or ten times a day!

Imagine the kids running a muck and you’re sitting there with a peaceful grin on your face!

In a future blog I want to take you to the next level where we create an oasis of blissful heaven …. A sacred space that you hold in your mind… and you can go there whenever you feel the need to bring peace throughout your mind, body and soul. 

I’ll share with you my peaceful place… if you share yours. 

But for now, I’m curious….. how many times did you count to three or ten without other thoughts?  And how did this feel to you?

P.S. The picture is of yours truly  - taken next to a beautiful stream in Queensland, Australia.

Many Blessings,

Carmen Wyld

Life Coach and Counsellor

www.carmenwyld.com

UGH! Got one of those DOWN TIMES happening?

I can remember quite a few down times throughout my life. They are NOT FUN. It can feel like the whole world is against you and you're moving through a heavy fog of emotional burdens. Or you might feel as though you have a chain around your ankles or waist... pulling you backwards.

And, you don't want to move backwards in life!

UGH!

How many times have you curled in a ball and cried yourself dry?

How often do you feel utter despair? - So much that everyone close to you experiences your misery?

I am an experienced down timer. I felt disconnected from the world.  When I ventured out on my own I felt lonelier and disheartened about life. Geepers. After all, it's a heavy burden to face the world alone. Yet, many people do. And so this deep hurt and loneliness weighs on your shoulders. Whatever your burden in life - it hurts - it's heavy - and it's not fun.

I don't remember how that happened. It became a ritual, or habit for me.  Each time I experienced a down time I consciously choose to go deeper into the heavy emotion. I found myself observing myself feeling negatively.  Whether it was grief, fear or misery I always took time out and went deeper into the emotion with my whole self - mind, body and soul. I allowed my mind the stay in the misery, rather than make excuses and just be happy for the sake of it. I acknowledged my body in the moments by allowing it to cry and shake, rather than stop the tears and be brave. 

During these turmoil times I learned to recognise a certain pattern - something good always happened afterwards. I called these Rainbows.  I always waited for the rainbow while basking in the misery. I released, rather than suppressed. I honoured myself by allowing each and every precious moment of misery.

This deep moment of respecting myself became a sacred ceremony. No excuses. No judgement. No reasons. Just honouring.

AND, I waited for the rainbow.

it's important to expect the rainbow. After all, everything changes. No matter how deep you are in your misery or other heavy emotion - it will change. 

EXPECT THE RAINBOW.

When you allow yourself to experience the uncomfortable emotions you not only save yourself from suppression in your body or mind, but it also strengthens your spirit. When you are able to feel negative emotions with ease and grace they become not so painful. It is then that you learn different strategies for dealing with difficult situations or problems. You gain power.

Immerse in misery, let it pass and expect the rainbow.

I hope this blog is helpful. It might not be written with excellent grammar and sentence structure today, but it's straight from my heart to yours.

Honour yourself. Love yourself.

All the best,
Carmen










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Look for What's Fresh!

G'Day!

And what a beautiful day it is today!  The sun is out and the wind is wildly freshening up everything.

I'm curious.... how are you feeling today? If you are low or down - let's shake things up a bit! I want you to feel ALIVE and EXCITED!

I'm sitting in my office - well technically two offices at one time - Lol! - and they say a person can't be in two places at once. I'm in my 'physical' office which is a perfectly sized cabin in the heart of a small country town. My friend and I painted the walls a fern green colour - the colour of healing. And I'm in my online office at the same time. :)

Today I'm here to remind you to feel alive! You know that inner feeling when you are at an amusement park as a child and are feeling really excited about what you might find during the events of the day? That feeling. Where bubbly excitement is simply brewing under surface as you spend each moment of the day in pure bliss as to what blessings and gifts the universe will bring you.

OH THAT'S A GOOD FEELING!

So I'd like to encourage you stretch your arms and legs... rub your eyes and ruffle your hair with your fingers and begin to feel truly alive.


Feel the aliveness of the day by expanding your perception to encompassing the unknown. For in the unknown is new adventure, hope and possibilities. Look for what's fresh!  Expect miracles to occur! You have the ability to create your life by being fully aware in the present moment.

In every moment of your life is something new. Your breath in each moment is new. When you gaze into the eyes of someone you meet, view their soul as divine and give them the opportunity to be 'new' in the present moment. Drop your judgement and expectations.

See people you pass by as if seeing them for the first time. See the places as if through the eyes of a child. Be amazed with your world!

Feel the aliveness of the creation of life. For in each moment - each present moment - life is being created.  YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE.

Look for what's fresh in how you are creating each moment on earth. Feel the power grow deeply within your being-ness. And know within your heart that you are truly doing your best to Heal the Planet from Within.

EXPECT MIRACLES TO OCCUR TODAY, and IN EVERY MOMENT!  FEEL ALIVE!

With Love and Blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Feel the Power of Your Thoughts!

Good morning! It's crispy cool here again this morning and I don't dare get out of bed until I mentally choose my clothes to whip on quickly.  So I sit here with a beanie on my head and my laptop...well, on my lap. (Quite a suitable name for a computer, huh?)

It's so lovely to write to you. This morning I felt excited to write about the power of your thoughts and how much they influence your life, but also the planet.  I know, I know... how on earth can your thoughts affect the planet?

Well, your thoughts, by themselves, are incapable of realising truth. They are not facts. They are not knowledge, but instead a condition of the limitations of society’s constructs.

Do not believe everything you think. Many thoughts are ‘programs’ you learned throughout your childhood and life’s experiences – these are set within the confines of the structure of society’s structures and rules.

Basically, society has been telling you what to think ALL your life.

However, you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth. Only then do thoughts transform into a belief system which have the potential to create your reality.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life. Make them more personally suited to you. Carefully, and consciously, choose a way of thinking that will enhance your quality of life and will create the life you desire.

Certain thought patterns have the power to suppress your ultimate potential just as much as other thought patterns have the power to make your dreams come true. Negative thoughts will hinder or block what you desire and emanate a 'negative vibe' into the world. I'm sure you have felt some of these negative vibes. When you walk into a room where someone is entertaining angry thoughts you can feel the tension in the air. This same feeling you get around heavy thoughts and emotions is the same heavy feelling that can be passed onto another person, and then another and another.

Why do people say a smile is contagious? Seeing someone smile or laugh often gives you uplifting feelings. The positive thoughts behind the smile or laugh affect how a person feels and this postiive feeling starts to travel from person to person.

So, thoughts and feelings affect people... but can you imagine how these thoughts affect the planet?  AND, if everyone on the planet were thinking positive conscious thoughts can you imagine how we, as a team of human being, can create a new world? With positive thinking we can create a peaceful and loving world. It's time now...

Watch your thoughts with care and make a conscious choice which ones you want to resonate with. Set free your inner awesomeness!  Emanate a positive vibration into the world and help heal the planet!

If you've enjoyed this day's blog please forward it onto another person... either on twitter, facebook, email, and so on.

Many thanks and warm blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com