Would You Eat Your Cat?

It was a few months ago now when I was standing the public library browsing through books while my daughter sought her favourites.  I believe the right book can sometimes fall into your hands. You know, you’ve got that niggling question about life and suddenly a magical book appears with an enchanting title offering answers to the current complexities of life. Well, this wonderfully warm summer day I was rather baffled when the book titled, “Would you eat your cat?” fell into my hands.

Uh.

Yuk!

Uh.

Who would title a book like that?! It puts bad ideas into people’s minds.

As a cat lover and owner of a whiter than milk coloured cat with two different coloured eyes I was astonished and angry. I’ve heard the saying that you’re either a cat lover or a cat hater. And you know those cat haters… they can come up with all sorts of disgusting cat jokes. Ew!

As I’m holding this book in the library my beloved feline friend is probably curled up in a ball on my bed. 

(Which is where she was at the time, and not in this cooking pot).

OMG!

The shock passes (but not the disgust) and I open the front cover, which by the way has an adorable picture of a kitten on it (it can’t be that bad then, right?).

We have different forms of what we believe to be ideal ways of living. Our viewpoints and perspectives may vary from one moment to the next and be different depending on the circumstance and situation we find ourselves in. What we believe to be true or right could be considered as wrong from another person’s perspective. Our viewpoints, opinions, ideas and beliefs differ from another’s. If we believe this to be true we must understand there is not one that is correct.  It would be utterly ridiculous to believe one life view is the same for all.

So, if my truth has a yuk factor to the question, “would you eat your cat?” how does that compare to another person’s perspective?

In the book by Jeremy Stangroom he guides the readers to consider their moral philosophy by considering a range of questions. As we identify the way in which we judge others we gain a deeper understanding of our own moral philosophy and the issues that affect our lives. 

Have you ever been given the righteous “should” treatment by someone? You know the kind. “You should do this….” Or “You shouldn’t do that…” and they expect you to follow these ‘orders’ because they are deemed to be morally correct in that person’s eyes.

YOU SHOULDN’T EAT YOUR CAT!  The title of the book really shocked me because I am an animal lover and would not consider eating my cat. But the moral issues involved in the story says that the cat in question died of natural causes, no one was harmed by the cat being eaten and it was a situation which only involved the owner of the cat who was honouring her beloved friend after it passed away. Is there anything immoral in doing this then? 

(I'm thinking she's rather disgusted that I'm only serving up vegetables!).

We could, as we were told to, SHOULD this elderly woman who felt she was doing the right thing to honour her feline friend’s life.  Or we could consider the situation from her perspective. Was she happy and satisfied doing this? Yes. Did she do anything that would hurt another person or living thing? No. Even though we carry our toolbox of beliefs and values other people may hold different ones.

When you’re aware of your values and beliefs you can consider the shoulding, whether it comes from your viewpoint or someone else, and if it's right for you.  I was raised in a Christian Reformed Church where judging was the ‘norm’ and hence I was constantly trying to prove myself to other people and often made the choice to act like a person I wasn’t just to please everyone else.

I simply wasn’t myself.  I was living a lie. And much to my disgust I too was judging and minimalising others.... blah!... the energies behind judgements and put downs are very heavy to carry.

After many years of soul searching I found my true self and my passion in life. 

Are you feeling stuck or frustrated in life? Do you find yourself worried what others might think of you? Do you have judgemental thoughts?  If so, you might like to consider if you are following your true path or doing what you should be doing? Are you being SHOULDED by your past?

On a side note…. I wonder, how can we live our lives passionately and remain true to ourselves without conflicting with other people’s viewpoints and perspectives?  Could social morality support this?

Imagine everyone on the planet being true to themselves and following their passion. Imagine the people in your neighbourhood, your family and friends… imagine them all excited about living and extremely happy in their lives. Imagine the world without SHOULDs!  What would the world look like?

If you live life passionately… you are guaranteed, not only succeed in reaching your dreams and goals, but you will also spark a seed in the people around you which will excite them to improve their life.

I hope this Blog finds you extremely happy and satisfied in life.  If not, get in touch with me so we can discover how to get you back on track. http://www.carmenwyld.com.

All the best,

Carmen

(No cats were harmed in the making of this blog.  She just became very confused as to why she was woken up from a cozy sleep, curled on my bed, to stand in a cold pot near vegetables.)

Creating the Life You Desire

It's a beautiful life. A beautiful world.

It has taken me some time to work out a strategy for creating the life I desire. I used to settle for less than what I wanted. As the old saying goes, "be happy for what you have" yet the underlying meaning of this statement is "don't expect anything else". That's how I was raised. My grandparents lived in Holland went through the German war. They learned to be happy with a minimal amount (and so you would). But this thought form travelled through my family and I was taught the beliefs that "we don't have enough money" and "you'll never amount to anything". Not sure where that last one fit in, but it was a tricky one to shake.

"Know Thyself" (the title of one my chapters: Heal the Planet from Within - on Amazon)  is the most important step in creating the life you desire. If you are unaware of the thoughts and beliefs you are holding in your mind and body, then how can you make the necessary changes to create the life you desire?

What life do you desire? Who do you want to be?

Here's a HELPFUL TECHNIQUE:

Write a letter from your future self to your current self from 10 years from now. Describe your living situation, the people around you, your career or job, your family relationships, your own personality and way of being, your level of satisfaction and happiness and how much love surrounds you. Next, tell your current self what you did to get there. Explain the crucial things you realised and the major hurdles you overcame.

This activity was a huge help for me to realise that what I was currently doing was not leading me to where I wanted to go and whom I wanted to be. With this knowledge I then had the power to choose different thoughts, emotions and actions to create the life I desired.

It takes some time to adjust your life path to create your dreams and goals. I've been consciously watching my ideal path appear in my life for a few years now.  Most of my life is aligned to create the life I desire both now and in the future. There are a few areas I'm still making adjustments too, but I can proudly say that I'm consciously creating my life.  Living in natural surroundings is one thing that was on my wish list.

Today I'm blogging from my peace of heaven (pun intended).  These pictures are taken from my front verandah. I'm living in sub-tropical surroundings in nature. In this picture the glare of the sun is blocking the mountain views.

But if I zoom in just slightly you can see the horizon.

Are you living your ideal life and lifestyle? It isn't selfish to desire a better life. When you are living your dreams and goals you inspire others to do the same.

Enjoy the journey!

All my best,
Carmen Wyld

Dealing With Troublesome Emotions

G'Day Readers!

I feel inspired today to take our conversation about thoughts one step further and show you a simple model for understanding your emotions.

Your thoughts and emotions are a great way to understand your signature patterns and the energies you are emanating into the world. Imagine for a moment hovering above yourself and seeing the emotional pattens in your matrix. Your emotions are creating a certain vibration. Now, in your imagination, take time to view other people's signature patterns such as the Dalai Lama's, your neighbour and your children. (Don't allow judgement or ego to do the viewing - just observe). What differences do you notice?

Everyone emanates a particular energy through their emotions. For instance, when you walk into a room where someone is angry you can feel their 'vibe' and this is different than the 'vibe' of someone joyful.

When are you experience negative emotions pause for a moment and query about the thoughts going through your mind at that moment. Your thoughts are the generator for your emotions. Managing emotions starts with thought awareness. Having conscious knowledge of your thoughts gives you the power over your feelings and emotions.

Ellis A-B-C model gives us clarity on how we upset ourselves about situations in life. For example,
if A = activating event - children are not listening or are misbehaving,
B = beliefs or thoughts - 'they are terrible to me, why don't they listen!'
C = emotional consequences - frustration and yelling.

Whereas if you replaced B with 'How else can I explain this in their language so they better understand?' or 'What is it they are really telling me here?',  then C = creating clear communication and perhaps even a joint venture with your children to figure out how things can go more smoothly.

I followed a similar model with my own daughter. Whenever I became frustrated with her actions I made the conscious choice to listen to my thoughts and identify the 'old patterns' (probably from my parents) and changed the way I did things.  Doing this made a difference not only to our relationship, but also to how she handles her own emotions. She's fifteen now and we remain close friends.

I encourage you to be diligent and watch your thoughts with care. Use your troublesome emotions as an indicator about your thoughts.  When you are feeling frustrated, angry or sad take some time to consider what thoughts you might be having. Change your thoughts to create positive emotions.

You have the power within you to change your life. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOU to CHANGE your WORLD.  How to deal with emotions is by observing your thoughts.

If you continue to do the things the way you have always done them... you will continue to get the same results... make the necessary changes to align with your dreams and goals... to create a life and lifestyle you desire!

 

Wishing you a wonderful day!

All the best, Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Would you like power over your chattering mind?

G'day Readers!

So you’ve learned how to multi-task, huh? 

When you were a child you most likely focused on one thing at a time. When you climbed trees you didn’t worry about money. When you played with your toys you didn’t fret about bills. Your family’s issues stayed their own – it wasn’t your responsibility to solve them.  (well, hopefully).

Between family matters and responsibilities, bills and money worries, work situations and trying to fit in some “me” time – whoah! -  life can be pretty hectic! 

Multi-tasking is considered a high skill where you can juggle many tasks at once and be productive in your family and work life.

But what happened to having peace of mind?

Do you crave it?

Even a little?

Perhaps you take some time to escape from the kids by going out for dinner with your friends…. Or soak in a bubble bath… Or indulge in some chocolate… and then more chocolate … and then more….

It’s only a quick break.

What would you say if I said you could have peace of mind anytime and anywhere?

Yup. AND, it’s easy!

I’m going to share with you a technique that will give you power over your chattering mind. (I've got other amazing strategies to share in future blogs too). 

 Right now I want you to CLOSE YOUR EYES and COUNT TO THREE.

Great!

How did you do? Did you count to three without any other thoughts in your mind?  If not, try again. Count to 3 with absolutely NO OTHER THOUGHTS in your mind except for the three counts.  If you naturally see images in your mind you might choose to visualise the numbers appear one by one.  (I imagine Sesame Street numbers appearing – Lol! – my brother used to watch a lot of Sesame Street). 

It’s easy – right?

Now do it again. Only this time, count to ten. Take your time because the ten count is more difficult than the three count. And be like a HAWK on your thoughts… NO OTHER THOUGHTS may appear when you’re doing the ten count!

If any thoughts do come up…. then start the ten count over again from the number one.

Try not to fool yourself.  I just tried it and in the background of the numbers I caught thoughts about what sentences to write in the blog.  I had to start again. When the background thoughts are quiet it’s only then that the PEACE OF MIND COMES.

 

You can do this three or ten count at any time throughout your day.

If the kids are getting rowdy do the three count. Imagine each number bringing you peace of mind. What colour represents peace to you? Is it the colour of a clear blue sky or the passionate red colour of love?  Have each colour appear to you in ways that will ensure you have peace within your mind.

I assure you… it gets easier with practice… so keep it up… at least three or ten times a day!

Imagine the kids running a muck and you’re sitting there with a peaceful grin on your face!

In a future blog I want to take you to the next level where we create an oasis of blissful heaven …. A sacred space that you hold in your mind… and you can go there whenever you feel the need to bring peace throughout your mind, body and soul. 

I’ll share with you my peaceful place… if you share yours. 

But for now, I’m curious….. how many times did you count to three or ten without other thoughts?  And how did this feel to you?

P.S. The picture is of yours truly  - taken next to a beautiful stream in Queensland, Australia.

Many Blessings,

Carmen Wyld

Life Coach and Counsellor

www.carmenwyld.com

Look for What's Fresh!

G'Day!

And what a beautiful day it is today!  The sun is out and the wind is wildly freshening up everything.

I'm curious.... how are you feeling today? If you are low or down - let's shake things up a bit! I want you to feel ALIVE and EXCITED!

I'm sitting in my office - well technically two offices at one time - Lol! - and they say a person can't be in two places at once. I'm in my 'physical' office which is a perfectly sized cabin in the heart of a small country town. My friend and I painted the walls a fern green colour - the colour of healing. And I'm in my online office at the same time. :)

Today I'm here to remind you to feel alive! You know that inner feeling when you are at an amusement park as a child and are feeling really excited about what you might find during the events of the day? That feeling. Where bubbly excitement is simply brewing under surface as you spend each moment of the day in pure bliss as to what blessings and gifts the universe will bring you.

OH THAT'S A GOOD FEELING!

So I'd like to encourage you stretch your arms and legs... rub your eyes and ruffle your hair with your fingers and begin to feel truly alive.


Feel the aliveness of the day by expanding your perception to encompassing the unknown. For in the unknown is new adventure, hope and possibilities. Look for what's fresh!  Expect miracles to occur! You have the ability to create your life by being fully aware in the present moment.

In every moment of your life is something new. Your breath in each moment is new. When you gaze into the eyes of someone you meet, view their soul as divine and give them the opportunity to be 'new' in the present moment. Drop your judgement and expectations.

See people you pass by as if seeing them for the first time. See the places as if through the eyes of a child. Be amazed with your world!

Feel the aliveness of the creation of life. For in each moment - each present moment - life is being created.  YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE.

Look for what's fresh in how you are creating each moment on earth. Feel the power grow deeply within your being-ness. And know within your heart that you are truly doing your best to Heal the Planet from Within.

EXPECT MIRACLES TO OCCUR TODAY, and IN EVERY MOMENT!  FEEL ALIVE!

With Love and Blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Feel the Power of Your Thoughts!

Good morning! It's crispy cool here again this morning and I don't dare get out of bed until I mentally choose my clothes to whip on quickly.  So I sit here with a beanie on my head and my laptop...well, on my lap. (Quite a suitable name for a computer, huh?)

It's so lovely to write to you. This morning I felt excited to write about the power of your thoughts and how much they influence your life, but also the planet.  I know, I know... how on earth can your thoughts affect the planet?

Well, your thoughts, by themselves, are incapable of realising truth. They are not facts. They are not knowledge, but instead a condition of the limitations of society’s constructs.

Do not believe everything you think. Many thoughts are ‘programs’ you learned throughout your childhood and life’s experiences – these are set within the confines of the structure of society’s structures and rules.

Basically, society has been telling you what to think ALL your life.

However, you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth. Only then do thoughts transform into a belief system which have the potential to create your reality.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life. Make them more personally suited to you. Carefully, and consciously, choose a way of thinking that will enhance your quality of life and will create the life you desire.

Certain thought patterns have the power to suppress your ultimate potential just as much as other thought patterns have the power to make your dreams come true. Negative thoughts will hinder or block what you desire and emanate a 'negative vibe' into the world. I'm sure you have felt some of these negative vibes. When you walk into a room where someone is entertaining angry thoughts you can feel the tension in the air. This same feeling you get around heavy thoughts and emotions is the same heavy feelling that can be passed onto another person, and then another and another.

Why do people say a smile is contagious? Seeing someone smile or laugh often gives you uplifting feelings. The positive thoughts behind the smile or laugh affect how a person feels and this postiive feeling starts to travel from person to person.

So, thoughts and feelings affect people... but can you imagine how these thoughts affect the planet?  AND, if everyone on the planet were thinking positive conscious thoughts can you imagine how we, as a team of human being, can create a new world? With positive thinking we can create a peaceful and loving world. It's time now...

Watch your thoughts with care and make a conscious choice which ones you want to resonate with. Set free your inner awesomeness!  Emanate a positive vibration into the world and help heal the planet!

If you've enjoyed this day's blog please forward it onto another person... either on twitter, facebook, email, and so on.

Many thanks and warm blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Get to Know Yourself More Deeply

Good Day Everyone!

It's so lovely to connect with you again through my blog. Today I feel compelled to share with you the importance of getting to know yourself.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. It's a vital KEY to successfully improving your life!

For example, let's say you're in the middle of a dark cave. You can't see anything. How will you get out? You can feel around and reach for the walls.  They are cold and slightly damp, but you follow them along, hoping to find an exit. You don't know how you got in this cave, but you do know you don't like it here. You're KEEN FOR A CHANGE.

If you're craving to improve your life, the first step is to turn the light on and look around to see where you're currently at.

So... where are you currently at in your life?

During consultations I have a process I refer to as signature patterns (or matrix) where the client is actively involved in seeking knowledge about themselves from a higher perspective. Now I know I've mentioned this bird's eye view in yesterday's blog on journalling, but I didn't really go into detail what I meant.

When you are feeling 'stuck' there are thought and behaviour patterns from childhood or past experiences that are hindering your success in life. These patterns keep you cycling through a 'system' of being which are you familiar with, but may not necessarily like. Have you ever repeated thoughts or behaviours you're not particularly fond of? And you say to yourself, "why did I do that... again?!"

Well, in order to make changes to these patterns it's necessary to see them from a higher perspective or a bird's eye view. This way you gain clarity, without judgement. And with clarity comes the power to make changes.

I'll go through the signature patterns exercise with you in a future blog, but for now I wanted to share with you the importance of getting to know yourself.

You can't get out of the cave unless you are seeking knowledge about yourself.  Who are you right now in your life? How has life's experiences and patterns affected your life and lifestyle?

I'd like to encourage you to LOOK INTO A MIRROR and ponder upon your current being-ness.

Look into your eyes and see the essence of your soul. Choose to accept yourself wholly. See yourself first with your mind. Your mind has thought patterns from childhood or past experiences as well as the impact of society's constructs.

Then CHOOSE TO SEE YOURSELF DIFFERENTLY than you usually would.

See yourself as a divine being - and feel the love you have for yourself. Feel it with your heart - not your mind. Put your thoughts aside and truly feel the person in the mirror with your heart.

What would you ask the person in the mirror? How deeply do you know yourself? What is your life's purpose? Who are you - really?

I'm very grateful you're reading this blog. I look forward to connecting with you again next time.

Love and hugs,
Carmen

What to do with your Journal Writing....

Good day! It’s a beautiful sunny day in Queensland, Australia and after a week’s worth of rain the blue skies look absolutely delightful. 

Today I wanted to return to our adventure together as we explore your inner thoughts and the patterns you noticed while journaling.  You can do this process with any journal you’ve written. It’s quite an enlightening experience.

Get your journal now and do a quick bird’s eye view of it by scanning it for negative words. Negative words include things such as “don’t”, “can’t”, “doesn’t”, “doubt”, “stuck”, “stressed”, “anxious”, “miserable” or heavy emotions such as “sad”, “depressed”, “angry” or “frustrated”, and so on. I’m sure you will find other negative words other than the ones you are reading here  - you understand the context of your writing - but these words will give you an idea and get you started.

Circle the negative words individually. Do not include the whole sentence when you are scanning and circling, we just want the words themselves. Some negative themes might come in two word phrases and its okay to circle both words then. (But no more than two words in one circle).

Once again scan and circle to make sure you pick up all the negatively spun words.  You are looking for words that are judging, critical, down, hindering your success, sabotaging, and so on. It’s important you identify all of them. Circle them without judgement. This is just a process of discovery, certainly not a judging contest about who has the most or least negative words/circles.

The next step is to circle all the POWER WORDS with a DIFFERENT COLOURED PEN or MARKER. The different colour is necessary so later you will be able to see it from a holistic perspective. The power words are ones such as “believe”, “seek”, “can”, “will do”,  “accept myself”, “positive”, “strength”, or uplifting emotions such as “happiness”, “joy”, “love”. As before, be open to discovering any single words or two word phrases that indicate an uplifting feeling or are positively worded. As it is your writing, you will understand the context of it and therefore will be easily able to find the positive vibed words. Make sure you circle them all …. and with a different colour than the negative words.

Your habitual thought patterns define your life. By journaling you reveal the patterns. In this exercise of circling the words individually you can clearly see whether your thoughts are more positive or negative.

Positive thought patterns have the power to create or improve your life. Negative thought patterns keep you stuck in a certain cycle.

What direction do you want your life to take?

In a future blog I’ll be writing about how to change your thoughts so they are successfully aligned towards your dreams and goals. Please let me know if this BLOG has been helpful to you, or if you'd like anything clarified or more indepth.

Until next time… watch your thoughts with care!  Be a witness to the life you are currently creating.

Much Love, Carmen