Drop Your Balls and Get Juicy with Stress Management

Stress management...there are so many techniques!

Are you familiar with stress balls? The ones made of foam that you squeeze?

When I think of it I'm not sure how much stress is relieved when squeezing a ball. I mean, if you rank stress relief techniques on a scale of 1 to 10 with #10 meaning the most effective technique then I would rank a stress ball a point 5.

So, drop your balls and let's get juicy with powerful stress management techniques. There are four stress relieving strategies I use regularly. I believe everyone needs to have an assortment to choose from depending on the type of stressor, situation and time frame you're working with.

1. Generate Endorphins

Laughter can be done any time. Laughter has been proven to trigger endorphins which are the feel good brain chemicals. Endorphins help to manage pain and promote feelings of well-being. In a study by Dr. Robert Dunbar, from Oxford University, laughter that creases the eyes triggers endorphins increasing health and well-being. It's important to make sure your laughter creates a sparkle in your eyes. Get a good hearty, deep laughter going for about 15-20 minutes. I'm sure you understand why this stress management technique is one of my favourites.You don't even need a reason to laugh. You can laugh while doing the dishes, washing the laundry or driving the car. Simply start laughing. You'll be pleasantly surprised how this positively changes your day too. :) I'm a trained Laughter Yoga leader and when facilitating Laughter Yoga we use a variety of fun exercises to generate laughter.... and endorphins.



2. Thought Awareness

In your mind are thoughts that may be creating stress. Your thoughts are not truth, but are in fact a creation of society's constructs and past experiences. By keeping a thought diary you can become familiar with the thought patterns running in your mind, and then choose to change this to relieve your stress. You might like to read moire about thought awareness and keeping a thought diary on my personal development website: www.PersonalDevelopmentInsights.com.

3. Meditation

There are many different forms of meditation. My preferred forms of meditation are present moment awareness ones. In each moment you have the power to still your mind, and create your life. It's quite easy. For example, when you are eating pay attention to each bite. Choose one of your favourite foods and focus on the texture, the smell and how your mouth waters when you smell it. You might even like to close your eyes while eating. Your worries and fears only exist when your thoughts are in the past or future.... bring your thoughts to what's happening in the moment and naturally feel more relaxed.

4. Be Grateful

There are times in my life when I'm feeling really low. I'm sure most people get these down times. Have you ever felt so sad or anxious that you become numb to the world? It's a terrible feeling. Well, one powerful stress management technique I have found very helpful during these down times is to think of everything I'm grateful for. I think of the things that are special in my life. Being grateful is an instant flick of a switch thought changer from negative and down to positive and uplifting.

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Why Personal Development?

It's not pure luck that brought you to seek the meaning of personal development. Why personal development anyways? Somehow you know the struggle of life can end with one special key opening the door to a successful life.

Disappointed with how your life has panned out so far? Living a boring life, just paying the bills and going through the motions?

You certainly don’t have to! It would be an absolute shame to let life just pass by, without excitement, thrill and blissful happiness coming your way.

 
The Struggle with Life
We struggle with life. And the struggle needn’t be a struggle. The struggle starts off with clarity. Or the lack of it.

We aren't able to life a good life because we keep goofing up, stuck in the same old patterns. And obviously, we don't goof up intentionally. We goof up, because we believe in something outside of ourselves. 
 
We believe that a good life is some kind of luck (when it's not).

We believe every ill-advised and rash self-help guru that we shouldn't trust ourselves, but instead use overworked programs. We believe that healing ourselves and changing our lives is a frustrating process, and it is. Until you discover the structure of personal development. But Why Personal Development?

This website is meant to stop you from believing in the hoopla you've heard before. It's a starting point. Not all the king's ransom. It's mean to get your started on the journey towards deep inner work. So that you can become a meaningful seeker, as well as a creator. 
 
But why take all of this trouble?
Is holistic personal development so very important? Let's put it this way. If you don't dive into personal development you'll continue doing a loop and feeling stuck. Life can't improve if you do the same things. I mean, if you're dead set on forcing yourself to be satisfied with your old patterns then it doesn't matter the effort you put in.

Why Personal Development?
Most people don't bother about personal development because they think a good life is for rich and successful people. They don't feel obliged to give themselves a suitable song. When we want a good life, they think, we'll rely on others for happiness and satisfaction. They look outside themselves using a funnel to sift out the dirt they don't want to see.

And there's where you're wrong (yup, wrong!), because personal development isn't about copying someone else's life or following blindly down a path that works for others. Personal development is the key to a successful life because it's fine tuning your personal toolbox exactly so it aligns to reach your dreams and goals. You can dramatically change your life by altering your thought processes and transforming sabotaging core beliefs. Invite financial success, love and serenity or peace of mind, to enjoy, cherish and value life like you've never done before!
Holistic personal development can do just that, revolutionize your thought process and permanently change your life for the better!

That's WHY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT! You deserve a better life. Invite personal development into your life by diving into a consultation with me or buying the book to explore your inner world.

Creating Life Passionately - Lessons from a Bush Turkey

G'day Everyone,

I find myself sitting at the computer eager to follow my passion and create my dreams come true.... but am hindered by the chatter in my mind.  You see, my mind likes to think. When I'm laying in bed and my mind is filled with constant ideas and notions. When I'm sitting on the verandah eating lunch my mind dwells on what could be, what should be. And of course, it dwells on what's not... and why not.

I'm sure you recognise this cycle of constant flow of thoughts and mind chatter.  It happens to the best of us. It's just the way we've been taught in our upbringing and in society. Intellect and thought are considered important aspects to be successful.

But did you know that your heart can think too?  Deep within your being is another form of creating that comes from your whole being, not just your mind.  This powerful form of creation comes from your total abandonment in passion and excitement. In fact, you can't create without passion. It is impossible to successfully change your life without aligning yourself to what makes you feel excited in every day life.

So, how you do sit within your passion rather than in your chattering mind?

Ask yourself in every moment possible: How am I feeling right now? Is this what I truly want to be doing? Am I excited to get out of bed every morning to live my life? Am I in love with all the people in my life?

Become intimately aware of your every moment.

Take for instance, my neighbour bush turkey.  He is very active creating the biggest nest. The bigger the nest he builds the more likely he will be to attract a mate.  EVERY MINUTE of his day is devoted to creating this nest. To building the life he desires. In fact, the poor guy, has had to rake leaves over layers of wood and tin (due to construction). No matter what obstacles get in his way.... he remains determined and focused.

(Isn't he a handsome fellow. I can just imagine how cute the baby bush turkeys will be.).

His rather large nest keeps growing and he keeps gathering leaves.  Turkey's nest is outside my office/study and it's a great reminder for me to stay focused and passionate about what I want to achieve in life.  The more I focus on what I want to achieve the more refined my vision gets. The more specific my goal is, the more likely I will be able to create it.  Turkey knows he is building a nest... and so he does.

Today I'd like to encourage you to be join me and be as focused as a bush turkey on your goals. Feel the power of passion move through you to improve your life and make your dreams come true.

If you are being thwarted from achieving your dreams due to old patterns or are feeling stuck or frustrated and can't quite pinpoint what your ideal passion is... please get in contact with me for a consultation. I'm a passionate coach eager to support you on your journey via skype, phone or in person: http://www.carmenwyld.com

5 Things to GET YOU EXCITED right now.

Live life passionately.

That's my motto.

And every once in awhile I question myself... what percentage of my activities are my true passion at the moment?

Passionate people have the power to create their life. To make their wildest dreams comes true.

Can you make yourself excited about something you have to do? Do you have the inner focus to love every aspect of your life? To see the positives, rather than the negatives?

If you can generate the feelings of excitement, passion or love in every moment - miracles and synchronicities WILL HAPPEN.  And I'm not just saying they will happen once a year or once every month. They will happen every day!

When I get excited about what I'm doing in life it all starts to flow. When things start to flow for me I know I'm on the right track - creating the life I desire. 

Successful people are passionate about what they do!  To be successful in life and in business follow your passion and what excites you. Ask yourself in each moment... am I doing what's right for me? Am I doing what I enjoy in this moment? Can I see the positives of what I'm doing right now?

Now I'm not talking about having to beam all the time this radiant exciting energy...  but it has to feel right for you in the moment. 

For instance, I'm a professional counsellor and coach and have started up practice helping middle-aged women improve their life.

(I resonate with this age group. You know the age when change occurs in a woman's life. It's either your children are leaving their nest, or your parents are aging, or you've just ended a long term marriage or relationship, or perhaps you're tired of your career. You're feeling stuck and frustrated and need to find your passion and do what you love to do. You want to heal your heart and improve your life. MAKE LIFE JUICY.)

But then in comes a market research job and I suddenly find myself saying 'yes' I'll do it and am making a zillion phone calls a day to executive's answering machines getting more frustrated as the day goes on. Only one more interview completed and my mind is numb.

I'm not following my passion. I have a huge heart for helping people. How can I generate enough passion to feel excited about research? After all, it's only for a week. <I'm careful not to fall into a pit of sadness and remind myself to BE EXCITED!>  And then I day-dream about my new business venture.

Last week I had a powerful vision of a new venture that would create much excitement and help people improve their lives. oooooohhh... I'm excited!  I run it by a colleague of mine and YES! - he's in. We begin brainstorming to pull it all together successfully. It's exciting! Oh yes, very exciting. We'll launch it late October. I decide to do some research of my own.

OMG! I can just imagine how excited the 'behind the scenes' person is about the research I'm doing for the company (which I previously considered frustrating).  They too are starting a new venture.

<grin!>

I'm excited!

 I want you to ask yourself - what are you doing that makes you feel excited and passionate?  Right now. Not in 2 hours from now when you're at your yoga class - right now.

Can you see the benefits of what you are doing right now? Is your career your ideal position according to your beliefs and values? Is it the best you can get right now as you move towards your desired position? Do you benefit financially from your position? How does your family and friends benefit from your chosen career?

Ponder on these 5 questions to get your EXCITEMENT JUICED....

What would you love to be doing right now? 

What gives you the most loving/passionate feeling in life?

How can you feel more passionate and excited about your life?

What changes can you make in how you perceive your current situation to feel EXCITED?

What miracles would you like to appear that would greatly improve your life?

LOOK FOR THOSE MIRACLES EVERY DAY.

EXPECT MIRACLES.


Expecting miracles generates a feeling of excitement towards what you desire. A feeling of excitement and passion moving through your mind and body has the power to create your dreams and goals to come true.

And one more thing... SMILE WIDELY at 5 people every day. This, in itself, is a sure remedy for feeling stuck or frustrated in life.

Try it...

Through answering the five questions I'm sure you discovered at least five things that get you excited and passionate. If you're still feeling stuck and frustrated and are eager to get to the bottom of your situation please feel free to contact me for a consultation: http://www.carmenwyld.com.

Much Love,
Carmen

Heal the Planet from Within

Feel the excitement, as WE, a team of Earth-wide citizens, work together to create a peaceful and loving world. Come join us on this dynamic journey!

The world is under a constant state of stress including the plants, animals and even us humans. We are starting to wake-up to our circumstances and realise that we need to make changes. But the only way to change the world is to heal ourselves from within. It cannot be done any other way.

How could we continue to think and act the way that we do and make significant changes the heal the world?  It's time now to become consciously aware of our thoughts, feelings and emotions and take action to change them to improve our lives... which in turns helps to heal the world.

For more information on this inner journey like us on Facebook at "Heal the Planet from Within" or subscribe to my newsletters at www.carmenwyld.com

Thank you for your support!

All the best,
Carmen

Creating the Life You Desire

It's a beautiful life. A beautiful world.

It has taken me some time to work out a strategy for creating the life I desire. I used to settle for less than what I wanted. As the old saying goes, "be happy for what you have" yet the underlying meaning of this statement is "don't expect anything else". That's how I was raised. My grandparents lived in Holland went through the German war. They learned to be happy with a minimal amount (and so you would). But this thought form travelled through my family and I was taught the beliefs that "we don't have enough money" and "you'll never amount to anything". Not sure where that last one fit in, but it was a tricky one to shake.

"Know Thyself" (the title of one my chapters: Heal the Planet from Within - on Amazon)  is the most important step in creating the life you desire. If you are unaware of the thoughts and beliefs you are holding in your mind and body, then how can you make the necessary changes to create the life you desire?

What life do you desire? Who do you want to be?

Here's a HELPFUL TECHNIQUE:

Write a letter from your future self to your current self from 10 years from now. Describe your living situation, the people around you, your career or job, your family relationships, your own personality and way of being, your level of satisfaction and happiness and how much love surrounds you. Next, tell your current self what you did to get there. Explain the crucial things you realised and the major hurdles you overcame.

This activity was a huge help for me to realise that what I was currently doing was not leading me to where I wanted to go and whom I wanted to be. With this knowledge I then had the power to choose different thoughts, emotions and actions to create the life I desired.

It takes some time to adjust your life path to create your dreams and goals. I've been consciously watching my ideal path appear in my life for a few years now.  Most of my life is aligned to create the life I desire both now and in the future. There are a few areas I'm still making adjustments too, but I can proudly say that I'm consciously creating my life.  Living in natural surroundings is one thing that was on my wish list.

Today I'm blogging from my peace of heaven (pun intended).  These pictures are taken from my front verandah. I'm living in sub-tropical surroundings in nature. In this picture the glare of the sun is blocking the mountain views.

But if I zoom in just slightly you can see the horizon.

Are you living your ideal life and lifestyle? It isn't selfish to desire a better life. When you are living your dreams and goals you inspire others to do the same.

Enjoy the journey!

All my best,
Carmen Wyld

Choose to have a BAD DAY!

G'Day Everyone!

Are you having a bad day?

It's a dreary Monday and there's no end to the clouds in the sky. I'm feeling the cold temperatures up in the mountains and hence am wearing leggings layered under my pants (again).  Brrrr!!! And YES, I have my funny hat on and even fingerless gloves. Brrrr!!!

This dismal day makes me wonder..... what thoughts did you have this the morning?  Have you ever noticed how your morning thoughts affect the rest of your day?

The thoughts you have when you first open your eyes in the morning can SET THE TONE of YOUR DAY.  Pay attention to what you think after your alarm clock goes off.

Some people have negative or 'down' thoughts on bleak, cloudy days.  Some people have a negative thought pattern throughout every morning regardless of what the weather is doing.

BE WARNED!! Your thoughts are POWERFUL CREATORS OF YOUR LIFE.  Yet you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth.

Thoughts are not factual. Thoughts are not truth. Thoughts are not knowledge. Thoughts are a condition of the limitations of society's constructs. Whatever you think is the creation of the web of concepts and theories which have been devised by civilisation and the social order.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life.  With this knowledge you have the power to make a conscious choice to create your life as you desire.

So, when you wake-up tomorrow morning. Choose your thoughts accordingly. Choose to create your life as you desire.  If you notice a negative thought pattern say STOP! to it, and then choose to replace it with a positive thought pattern.  PAY ATTENTION to your thoughts and transform them so they align with your dreams and goals. That's the power of positive thinking. You can use it to improve your life.

For an example of how to change your life using thought awareness let's say your morning thought was, "I'll never have enough (money, clients, happiness, etc)." change it to something more empowering such as, "Miracles occur every day." or "I am in control of creating my life... and I choose to be happy today." ... and so on.

I hope this blog was inspiring to you.  As always, I love connecting with you through my blog. I welcome comments, feedback and questions. Would you like me to blog about something you're pondering about?  I am passionate about helping people improve their life with passion....so if you need support or guidance I offer Life Coaching and Professional Counselling consultations in person or online.


Happy Thinking!
Carmen Wyld

P.S. For a copy of my book click here.
 

Would you like power over your chattering mind?

G'day Readers!

So you’ve learned how to multi-task, huh? 

When you were a child you most likely focused on one thing at a time. When you climbed trees you didn’t worry about money. When you played with your toys you didn’t fret about bills. Your family’s issues stayed their own – it wasn’t your responsibility to solve them.  (well, hopefully).

Between family matters and responsibilities, bills and money worries, work situations and trying to fit in some “me” time – whoah! -  life can be pretty hectic! 

Multi-tasking is considered a high skill where you can juggle many tasks at once and be productive in your family and work life.

But what happened to having peace of mind?

Do you crave it?

Even a little?

Perhaps you take some time to escape from the kids by going out for dinner with your friends…. Or soak in a bubble bath… Or indulge in some chocolate… and then more chocolate … and then more….

It’s only a quick break.

What would you say if I said you could have peace of mind anytime and anywhere?

Yup. AND, it’s easy!

I’m going to share with you a technique that will give you power over your chattering mind. (I've got other amazing strategies to share in future blogs too). 

 Right now I want you to CLOSE YOUR EYES and COUNT TO THREE.

Great!

How did you do? Did you count to three without any other thoughts in your mind?  If not, try again. Count to 3 with absolutely NO OTHER THOUGHTS in your mind except for the three counts.  If you naturally see images in your mind you might choose to visualise the numbers appear one by one.  (I imagine Sesame Street numbers appearing – Lol! – my brother used to watch a lot of Sesame Street). 

It’s easy – right?

Now do it again. Only this time, count to ten. Take your time because the ten count is more difficult than the three count. And be like a HAWK on your thoughts… NO OTHER THOUGHTS may appear when you’re doing the ten count!

If any thoughts do come up…. then start the ten count over again from the number one.

Try not to fool yourself.  I just tried it and in the background of the numbers I caught thoughts about what sentences to write in the blog.  I had to start again. When the background thoughts are quiet it’s only then that the PEACE OF MIND COMES.

 

You can do this three or ten count at any time throughout your day.

If the kids are getting rowdy do the three count. Imagine each number bringing you peace of mind. What colour represents peace to you? Is it the colour of a clear blue sky or the passionate red colour of love?  Have each colour appear to you in ways that will ensure you have peace within your mind.

I assure you… it gets easier with practice… so keep it up… at least three or ten times a day!

Imagine the kids running a muck and you’re sitting there with a peaceful grin on your face!

In a future blog I want to take you to the next level where we create an oasis of blissful heaven …. A sacred space that you hold in your mind… and you can go there whenever you feel the need to bring peace throughout your mind, body and soul. 

I’ll share with you my peaceful place… if you share yours. 

But for now, I’m curious….. how many times did you count to three or ten without other thoughts?  And how did this feel to you?

P.S. The picture is of yours truly  - taken next to a beautiful stream in Queensland, Australia.

Many Blessings,

Carmen Wyld

Life Coach and Counsellor

www.carmenwyld.com

Look for What's Fresh!

G'Day!

And what a beautiful day it is today!  The sun is out and the wind is wildly freshening up everything.

I'm curious.... how are you feeling today? If you are low or down - let's shake things up a bit! I want you to feel ALIVE and EXCITED!

I'm sitting in my office - well technically two offices at one time - Lol! - and they say a person can't be in two places at once. I'm in my 'physical' office which is a perfectly sized cabin in the heart of a small country town. My friend and I painted the walls a fern green colour - the colour of healing. And I'm in my online office at the same time. :)

Today I'm here to remind you to feel alive! You know that inner feeling when you are at an amusement park as a child and are feeling really excited about what you might find during the events of the day? That feeling. Where bubbly excitement is simply brewing under surface as you spend each moment of the day in pure bliss as to what blessings and gifts the universe will bring you.

OH THAT'S A GOOD FEELING!

So I'd like to encourage you stretch your arms and legs... rub your eyes and ruffle your hair with your fingers and begin to feel truly alive.


Feel the aliveness of the day by expanding your perception to encompassing the unknown. For in the unknown is new adventure, hope and possibilities. Look for what's fresh!  Expect miracles to occur! You have the ability to create your life by being fully aware in the present moment.

In every moment of your life is something new. Your breath in each moment is new. When you gaze into the eyes of someone you meet, view their soul as divine and give them the opportunity to be 'new' in the present moment. Drop your judgement and expectations.

See people you pass by as if seeing them for the first time. See the places as if through the eyes of a child. Be amazed with your world!

Feel the aliveness of the creation of life. For in each moment - each present moment - life is being created.  YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE.

Look for what's fresh in how you are creating each moment on earth. Feel the power grow deeply within your being-ness. And know within your heart that you are truly doing your best to Heal the Planet from Within.

EXPECT MIRACLES TO OCCUR TODAY, and IN EVERY MOMENT!  FEEL ALIVE!

With Love and Blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com

Feel the Power of Your Thoughts!

Good morning! It's crispy cool here again this morning and I don't dare get out of bed until I mentally choose my clothes to whip on quickly.  So I sit here with a beanie on my head and my laptop...well, on my lap. (Quite a suitable name for a computer, huh?)

It's so lovely to write to you. This morning I felt excited to write about the power of your thoughts and how much they influence your life, but also the planet.  I know, I know... how on earth can your thoughts affect the planet?

Well, your thoughts, by themselves, are incapable of realising truth. They are not facts. They are not knowledge, but instead a condition of the limitations of society’s constructs.

Do not believe everything you think. Many thoughts are ‘programs’ you learned throughout your childhood and life’s experiences – these are set within the confines of the structure of society’s structures and rules.

Basically, society has been telling you what to think ALL your life.

However, you only become what you think if you engage with your thoughts as truth. Only then do thoughts transform into a belief system which have the potential to create your reality.

It is therefore important to explore the impact of your thoughts on the quality of your life. Make them more personally suited to you. Carefully, and consciously, choose a way of thinking that will enhance your quality of life and will create the life you desire.

Certain thought patterns have the power to suppress your ultimate potential just as much as other thought patterns have the power to make your dreams come true. Negative thoughts will hinder or block what you desire and emanate a 'negative vibe' into the world. I'm sure you have felt some of these negative vibes. When you walk into a room where someone is entertaining angry thoughts you can feel the tension in the air. This same feeling you get around heavy thoughts and emotions is the same heavy feelling that can be passed onto another person, and then another and another.

Why do people say a smile is contagious? Seeing someone smile or laugh often gives you uplifting feelings. The positive thoughts behind the smile or laugh affect how a person feels and this postiive feeling starts to travel from person to person.

So, thoughts and feelings affect people... but can you imagine how these thoughts affect the planet?  AND, if everyone on the planet were thinking positive conscious thoughts can you imagine how we, as a team of human being, can create a new world? With positive thinking we can create a peaceful and loving world. It's time now...

Watch your thoughts with care and make a conscious choice which ones you want to resonate with. Set free your inner awesomeness!  Emanate a positive vibration into the world and help heal the planet!

If you've enjoyed this day's blog please forward it onto another person... either on twitter, facebook, email, and so on.

Many thanks and warm blessings,
Carmen

www.carmenwyld.com